How does self care benefit you?
Self care, self care , self care! By now we’re all familiar with the wellness industry’s favourite term; self-care. And while, yes, some may say it’s become cliche, there are many proven benefits to practicing self-care. Aside from the obvious one, simply FEELING better, here are a couple unexpected benefits I found when I started increasing my self-care.
1. Slowing down makes you more productive.
Slowing down can take many forms. Maybe it is saying no to commitments that don’t serve you- this was hard for me😬carving out time in your day for yoga or coffee with a friend or simply taking a few deep breaths before a meeting. All of these actions bring us back to the present moment and help us to re-focus on what is TRULY important. Making a list can help prioritize things and also remind you of what needs focus first! If you’re avoiding the list, chances are it’s too long or those things on there aren’t a real priority🤭Often what is needed is to make self-care a top priority and then come back to the rest of The list. You could just be burned out or lacking motivation. That was a blog a few weeks back!! 💁🏼♀️
2. Self-care will help boost your immune system. What do taking your vitamins/supplements, getting lots of rest, exercising, mindfulness and taking a hot bath all have in common? They all activate the Parasympathetic Nervous System. When you activate the PNS it puts your body into ‘rest + restore’ mode, giving our bodies the chance to decompress from our generally hectic daily lives. The more we can incorporate these activities into our routines, the better we can cope with our hectic lifestyle and the less time we actually have to make ‘busy.’ All of this gives the body the opportunity to build its defenses against those nasty cold bugs that like to attack when we’re at our weakest.
Once I implemented a regular self-care routine I noticed a dramatic decrease in the number of sick days I had. Not to mention the positive correlation I saw in my energy levels!
3. Self-care improves your self-compassion. It’s pretty simple, the more you take care of yourself, the better you feel. Dr. Kristin Neff defines Self Compassion as “being warm and understanding toward ourselves when we suffer, fail, or feel inadequate, rather than ignoring our pain or flagellating ourselves with self-criticism.”🤦🏼♀️
When I really started paying attention to the voices in my head I realized that I would never talk to a loved one the way I was talking to myself.🤭 Noticing your self-talk is a form of self-care in itself. When we start to treat ourselves with love and compassion we start to view the world differently, we start to view ourselves as part of the collective human experience rather than in isolation (aka the “why me” voice). Taking care of yourself will undoubtedly lead to more self-compassion🧘🏼♀️☺️
4. You’ll find out who you really are. How many times do you stop and think, what do I LOVE to do. What really lights me up? What can I do for myself that makes me feel good. A few of us can answer this pretty easily, but many cannot. As we grow up and leave ‘childhood’ behind we are conditioned to believe that play is for kids and that doing too much for ourselves is ‘selfish.’ At least those were some of the beliefs I picked up along the way. I lost touch with myself and started seeking fulfilment from outside sources. As my world opened up to self-care, what it was, and the importance of it, I have completely re-connected with myself. I can now answer those questions without any doubt AND I know what I need to do when I’m feeling out of alignment.
5. You will have more to give others. Not less. I didn’t realize it at the time, but for many years I was one of ones carrying around the belief that self-care was selfish. That if I was doing something for myself it meant I wasn’t doing something for someone else. And I valued my contributions to others (especially those I loved) higher than myself. One of the biggest (and hardest) lessons I’ve learned from giving to myself first, is that if my cup isn’t full then I definitely can’t fill up others either 🤔we’re talking family, friends, spouses, work colleagues, everyone! What I realized is that the more I practiced my own self-care the more capacity I had for family and friends- for everyone! It’s a bit like building muscle, it takes practice and time. But so, so worth it.
Remember this isn’t gender specific- all people need self care to really thrive. It’s your Devine right as a human being!
Here’s a few things to do that act in self care! Start this week an implement 1 action for yourself! No excuses!
1- go to a movie
2- take a walk, bath, nap, or a scenic drive
3- take yourself to ice cream, coffee or lunch
4- buy yourself a new outfit, or accessory
5- head to the park or beach and listen to music or a meditation for 30-60 min uninterrupted
6- make yourself a delicious meal
7- get your hair cut, colored or styled
8- get a massage
9- get a manicure or pedicure
10- designate an area in your home that’s just yours and fill it with all things that inspire and make you feel content!
I couldn’t agree more with this. Self-Care leads to a much more fulfilling life. As a mom, I can attest to the fact that it can be hard to be an advocate for self-care – so many feel like when our kids are little, we have to be 100% focused on them…which means giving up the things we enjoy while they are growing up. Don’t get me wrong, focusing on our kids is important, but it is also just as important to reserve some time for ourselves – and also “couple time” with our spouse/S.O. When I give myself time to take care of myself (for me this means gym time and a long, hot bath in the evenings after the kids are in bed), I am happier and have more patience for the kiddos. Long story short, it’s super important!